Black Friday Behavior Is Appalling

 I have been watching the reports of appalling behavior at stores all across the United States. I have also been watching the tweets of people who seem to blame retailers for this behaving; especially Walmart.

Blaming the retailers for despicable behavior by their costumers is like blaming a car for the accident caused by its driver. Just stupid, stupid stupid behavior!!

Apparently the possibility of saving a few dollars brings the worst out in some people. But there is a segment of every society that thrives on bad behavior. There are those who are the perpetrators of this behavior and there is that segment of society that sits in wait to record this behavior.  These 'chronicalors of bad behavior' always have their camera phones and the shortest way to upload the pictures to the Internet at the ready.

I also believe that many of these 'papparazzi for chaos' are sitting in wait for the sole purpose of stirring up the pot of discontent among those who have agendas against business. It's possible that some of these incidents are staged. I have no proof but do have a strong feeling.

Millions of people take part in Black Friday shopping, my daughter being one, and never get involved with this behavior.

It's funny that we see very little about the thousands of stores that have well behaved costumers. I guess despicable behavior makes better news.

Randy

A Day To Be Thankful

Thanksgiving is a day to be thankful for what we have been given and who we share our lives. Over the past few years my life has been a bumpy ride at best with few things to be thankful. Second Life has been better but still there were bumps in the road.

I have watched, in amazement, as my life slowly improves at an age where I did not expect any improvement. A woman has found her way into my Real and Second lives and elevated me. I find myself doing things again that I had laid by the side of the road, like an unneeded weight, thinking I would not return to them. But she has helped me find my way back to activities that were normal years ago but were set aside in my depression.

CeeCee Caledonia my new Second Life partner has set me on a new path to a happier life. I am thankful for her everyday. We are a six hour drive away form each other but she always makes sure that I am never alone. Never lonely. A constant flow of texts, phone calls and emails makes it difficult to feel alone.

Oh Yeah!! I am also thankful I have unlimited texting, lol.

We spent a wonderful three day weekend together; getting to know each other, discovering that we like being with each other and  seeing that even though we are not CeeCee and Zoilo, in real life, that there is an attraction and bond between us.

I am thankful for the smile she puts on my face everyday. The way we laugh out loud together, like two little kids being tickled, when we are on skype.

I am thankful for the way she kicks me in the butt to get me moving when I am down. I am thankful for the opportunity to treat her well because she deserves it.

I am thankful for her courage in meeting a stranger, who could have been a serial killer, and over coming her fears to get to know me.

I have always heard that happiness can improve an illness. I know that is true because I have been feeling so much better since she came into my life.

I am especially happy for the sense of hope she has instilled in me. I had lost that and her gift of returning it to me is the best thing anyone could have given me.

Happy Thanksgiving Baby!!

Love you!!

Randy

 

The Joy Of Spending Thanksgiving Alone

There was a time that the thought of spending any holiday alone was repugnant to me but over the years my mind has changed. Of course it may just be that I am rationalizing my plight and protecting my psyche but I do have my reasons for accepting my solitude.

Divorce not only separates families physically but it destroys the traditions that were built as a family unit. Families, especially the children, make any holiday special but Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. It is a family day of course but more than that it is a day of reflection. It is the gateway to the Christmas Season.

I loved Thanksgiving with my family as it was always a peaceful day with little stress. So different when extended family are introduced into the day.

I remember having to worry about where people sat because some had ongoing feuds and scheduling dinner around football games because some family members thought Thanksgiving was a celebration of the NFL.

The menu always had to be changed to accommodate other peoples Thanksgiving traditions. One year I was sent out to look for pickled crab apples because having those was a Thanksgiving tradition for one of my brother-in-laws.

I hated exiling my children to the 'childrens table'. It was like they were being second class citizened when they should be the focus of why we were thankful.

If I see one more relative sit on my couch, open up his pants and complain that he had eaten to much while asking for more pumpkin pie I will scream.

On a day when we are supposed to be enjoying the company of family and reflecting on our lives I have seen more family arguments than there are on Amish Mafia. No subject was devoid of the potential for argument. Politics, sports, the food and aunt Mabel's massive boil on her ass that requires her to sit on four pillows so she can eat dinner are all thrown around, debated and produced arguments with someones feelings hurt and dinner ruined.

These days I spend a quiet day in solitude except for brief visits from my children to drop off food because they believe that I will starve if they don't, lol.  My ex manipulates their holiday time through threats and whining so I never get to make a dinner at my place. The kids know that dad will not complain and it's easier for them to give in to mom than fight her.

This year, for the first time in probably seven years I am making a turkey dinner. Yeppers, I will be eating turkey for a week so I have been looking at recipes like turkey pot pie and turkey soup to use up the leftovers.. Simple things that I like.

In essence I will begin again to make my own holiday traditions. Like Grilled Turkey, Brie, and Apple Butter Sandwich with Arugula. Yummy!!

Have a wonderful holiday!!!

Randy

Lesbian Anniversary~No Balloons

'Lesbian Anniversary~No Balloons'; I know that every female same sex couple wants that written on their anniversary cake. This is exactly what happened to a couple in the Washington DC area recently.

"The customer, identified only as Sarah, told The Advocate that she had ordered a carrot cake based on a design she saw in the Arlington, Va. bakery's catalog that featured balloons crafted out of icing. Sarah said she requested that her custom cake not include the balloons, but read "Happy Anniversary Lindsey! Love, Sarah" instead."

"When Sarah picked up the cake, it read, "Lesbian Anniv. No Ballons" [sp] in lieu of her suggested message. The cake was also chocolate and featured the icing balloons that Sarah had requested not be included."

This type of slight has been happening more and more especially in the service industry where tips are being withheld because of the servers sexual orientation.

Withholding gratuities is sometimes alright; if the service is bad or the food literally sucks but to evoke the sexual orientation of the server as a reason is despicable.

These same bigots sit in their churches extruding a 'hollier than thou' attitude every Sunday. They lay their bigotry at the feet of God where it does not belong. Bigotry against gays, just because they are gay, is no different than bigotry against peoples of color just because they are not white. It is an ignorant stance taken by people who claim to know God but in reality their attitudes will never let God know them.

God teaches love and caring for all people. HE never teaches hate. Hate is taught by humans who in their quest for relevance always have to keep someone down. They demonize segments of our society in an effort to justify their battle against the devil because being different or having different beliefs in some way is proof that the devil exists.

I would be happy sitting at the gates of Heaven, for eternity, watching God turn away all these bigots for their lack of love and compassion for all Gods creatures.

Randy

We Should Be Afraid to Leave our Houses

Every time we wander out of our houses to run life's little errands we take our lives into our own hands. There is a pretty good chance that you may not make it home from your trip to the grocery or Wally World.

Many of us have a use the stairs to improve our health but did you know that 12,000 people are killed each year by stairs. You are safer taking the elevator. Only 27 people are killed using elevators each years.

Everyday Americans make over 260 million trips across the 66,749 bridges defined as 'structrually deficient' by the Federal Highway Administration. That's about 1 in 9 bridges in the United States.

Did you know that you are very likely to contract a Hospital Acquired Infection when admitted to a hospital. There is an estimated 1.7 million infections and 99,000 deaths associated with Hospital Acquired Infections. And the hospital charges you to clear up the infection.

Things that can give you cancer; smoking, asbestos and the hair products that we use everyday to prepare for that trip out.

Want to take your child out for a hot dog? Don't! 77 children a year are killed by hot dogs.

Birds flying into airplanes have caused 250 deaths worldwide since 1988.

Now that I have you afraid to leave the house; you are no safer staying home.

Your cats carry diseases that can be transferred to humans. Diseases like toxoplasmosis that has been associated with increases in risk behavior, mental disorders including ACHD, OCD, schizophrenia or a greater chance of suicidal behavior. Puppies can transfer campylobactor to humans which cause diarrhea.

Speaking of dogs; last year 37 people were killed by dogs and only 1 by a bear.

Bathtubs kill 341 people annually.

600 people die in America every year by falling out of bed.

15,260 times per year(42 times a day) houses burn down because of open flames like with candles.

Finally from 2002 - 2010 , and I am crossing my legs while I type this, 17, 616 people went to the ER with genitalia injuries caused by zippers. OUCH!!!

So we are not safe anywhere.

Enjoy your holiday kiddies! LOL!!

Randy

PETA Tries To Eat Macys Thanksgiving Parade

Political Correctness, left leaning agendas and tradition destroying activists continue to chip away at our traditions like shit eating birds chipping away at an elephants dung heap.

This time it's the Macy's Thanksgiving Parade. A purely entertaining experience enjoyed my millions of Americans every year for the past 89 years. As a child attending the parade with my family was an exciting tradition that marked the beginning of the Christmas season.

In walks PETA to try and spoil this event for the rest of us. First there is a flap over Joan Jett and the Blackhearts being bumped off the South Dakota float because Joan is a vegetarian. The complaint was made by the South Dakota Cattleman's Association.  Lets see; a vegetarian on a float representing a state that is a major meat producer.

"She was scheduled to sing atop South Dakota's tourism float until an outcry from the South Dakota Cattleman's Association, which said it made no sense to feature an artist who is critical of the state's top economic sector", according to a report in the Huffington Post. Joan did not belong here in the first place. Any self respecting vegetarian would not want to represent a meat producing state.

Now PETA is going to protest the Sea World float because they believe that Sea World mistreats their animals. Whales in particular. This protest is based on the documentary Blackfish. Have you ever noticed how leftists know how to manipulate public opinion with an endless flow of documentaries that were made with the conclusions in hand before the film was even started.

"The Sea World float, which depicts rolling waves, tropical fish, penguins and Shamu, comes months after the release of the documentary "Blackfish," which contends that Sea World's poor treatment of its killer whales contributed to the aggression of a whale involved in a trainer's death."

"Sea World says the accusations have "absolutely no basis" and that "the men and women who care for these animals at Sea World are dedicated in every respect to their health and well-being."

Now Alec Baldwin and his wife Hilarious( or whatever her name is) have chimed in; "Among those joining were actor Alec Baldwin and his wife, Hilaria, who wrote last week that Sea World was a "cruel prison for whales" and that the parks "should not be celebrated with a giant Shamu float parading down 34th Street."

Anything these two cretins are against I will stand up for. They are the sole reason I would like to see a new group formed, PETP~People For the Ethical Treatment of People, as they seem to have more respect for animals than they do people.

We are living in a time when groups political agendas are invading every aspect of our lives and traditions. Christmas is under attack in schools as being a religious holiday while other religions are given free reign to wander the hallowed halls of our schools.

Political agendas are invading sports through political advertising and payments to teams to show support for political objectives.

Crime is ignored by the main stream media, like this new abomination the 'knock out game' where gangs of youths attack innocent people in an attempt to knock them out. The main stream press seems to be ignoring the story and I believe it is because all evidence seems to point to black on white crime and reporting on this would not fit the liberal press agenda.

Political Correctness, left leaning agendas and tradition destroying activists will continue to chip away at our traditions and society until American society is unrecognizable. The only thing that will stop them is if we do not give into them. Treat them like terrorists and do not negotiate.

Randy

Emotional Pain

“Everyone keeps telling me that time heals all wounds, but no one can tell me what I’m supposed to do right now. Right now I can’t sleep. It’s right now that I can’t eat. Right now I still hear his voice and sense his presence even though I know he’s not here. Right now all I seem to do is cry. I know all about time and wounds healing, but even if I had all the time in the world, I still don’t know what to do with all this hurt right now”, Nina Guilbeau, To many Sisters

How do you stop the tears of someone you hurt when the mere fact that you are happy causes them more pain? It is a question with no easy answer. Having empathy toward another person, because you understand their pain as you have experienced it yourself, is no help to to them. There is nothing that the causer of the pain can do to take that pain go away.

After a relationship a grieving process will occur, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are stages or this process. I understand these stages as I have been through them many times. But some circumstances causing breakups are harder to handle than others.

When a relationship is full of love yet ends for other reasons it is difficult to accept. Any relationship needs more than love. A couples goals and aspirations need to coincide. Only a cooperative nature in the relationship will move it forward.

If one partners goals are unachievable, within the relationship, the relationship will suffer. Of course this does not lessen the pain and hurt the other partner feels when the split occurs.

I believe that few people set out to hurt anyone intentionally but intentionally or not the pain is intense and life consuming. 

  Denying that this could possibly be happening to you followed by anger so strong that you actually hate and love someone at the same time is confusing. The anger makes your healing process difficult and you begin to hatch plans to get back the person you love. When you finally see that this will not happen you slip into a depression that consumes you. Only through finally accepting the loss can you move on and rebuild your life.

The worse feeling that I have ever experienced, and I am sure others have experienced this, is that feeling of loving and hating someone at the same time. It's confusing and destructive.

 

Anger, even well placed anger, is the greatest stumbling  block to the healing process. The longer you hold onto it the longer you will suffer. I am not saying that you have to sing peace songs with the object of your anger but a person needs to let it go.

Moving on with someone else becomes an issue of trust at a time when trust has been crushed. Trusting another person, after a breakup, can either go one of two ways; you trust to much and to soon and open yourself up to another hurt or you hold back distrusting everyone.

It takes a long time to gain some one's trust. It's a slow process that takes great patience on the part of your new prospective partner. That person must be patient, loving and understanding. They should only make promises that they believe they can keep. Sometimes it feels like you are walking on eggshells but the rewards for you patience and love are great.

Life is not meant to be lived alone. Only bonding with another person will complete your healing process.

Find a way to let the pain and hurt go and look for some happiness.

Randy