"There is a great deal of pain in life and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain", R.D. Laing
I constantly find it amazing that we are the creators of our own discomforts. We paint ourselves into corners and, in our distinctly human reaction, blame others or our environment for our predicaments. We are all guilty of doing this, probably on a subconscious level, in what I believe is an attempt at making ourselves feel significant in a world where few are significant.
Life is meant to be lived with gusto. Whether that life is significant to the world around us should be irrelevant to how we live it. Painting our selves into corners is a waste of time as getting out of the corner is time consuming . Life passes us by while we wait for the paint to dry so we can extricate ourselves from that corner and back into living our lives.
In Second Life this process is called 'drama' and everyone has a desire to avoid it. But how do you avoid what is a basic human instinct? Drama is a pan universal concept that transcends the real and virtual. There will always be those that produce drama and those that are drama's recipients.
You can not run from drama you must deal with it. Sure drama causes pain but the pain is a building block of our personalities. Our experiences, happiness, pain, love, sex and all the other levels of the human condition, are what makes up our being.
How can you understand the importance of love if you have never experienced the loss of love? How can you understand the value of friendship if you never put yourself out there for a friend?
Embrace your emotions do not avoid them. Hold your pain in high regard as a learning tool for living your life.
Live your life everyday as if this was your last day. The significance of the life you lead is most important within yourself. No one can place a value on your life. That is your job!!