I am a believer in 'FATE'. Fate that we create with our choices. That does not mean that I accept my fate or anything that comes with it. If its not liking I can and I will change it.
"I do not believe in a fate that will fall on us no matter what we do. I do
believe in a fate that will fall on us if we do nothing." RONALD REAGAN, First Inaugural Address, January 20,
Everyday we are faced with choices and those choices determine what our outcomes are for any particular day. There is no 'set at birth' fate for any of us. But many people believe that and live their lives accordingly.
There was a time when people accepted whatever came their way as gospel. For instance at one time if your father was a 'thatcher' or a 'share cropper' than that is all you could aspire to do with your life. Your core beliefs held that your fate was to be born into a particular life and that was where you belonged.
If any of you watch Downton Abby you will see that attitude displayed by that serving staff. Aspiring to be a server to a titled family is all they want to do and if they show a penchant for doing better than that one of their fellow servers reigns them in.
Over my 100 years of life I have noticed several things about fate. First, you make your own fate no one makes it for you. Secondly, fate takes work. You do not make a choice and live with it for ages. Choices need to be evaluated on a daily basis.
Third, forks in the road that force us to re-evaluate our path come fewer and farther between as we age. This makes decision making much more critical.
Lastly, making a wrong choice is not fatal. There will always be a corrective choice down the road.
Of course there are exceptions to every rule; "Man does not control his own fate. The women in his
life do that for him." GROUCHO MARX, Woman's Day Magazine, May 8,
Groucho was a very smart man, lol.