I have a friend, a dear friend, who is leaving Second Life because she is getting married in Real Life. I am so very happy for her but as she leaves Second Life saying goodbye is staring us in the face. She posed the these questions to me the other day; How can we say good-bye and will Real Life fill the void?
Two very tough questions. I am the king of goodbyes. I think that I have said more goodbyes in my life than I have said hellos. My experience tells me that there are many different types of goodbyes. Saying goodbye changes with each person and with each relationship. Saying goodbye to a girlfriend, wife, partner or lover is much different than saying goodbye to a friend.
We come to Second Life looking to fill a void in our Real Lives. That void can be because we lack love, are lonely or generally looking for a bit of happiness. I think it's different for all of us.
Making a friend here, a good friend that we can open our soul to is such an emotional experience in Second Life. Being in pixilalted form leaves us emotionally open without a physical form to hide behind.
How can we say goodbye? Frankly we can't and should not say goodbye. We are interweaved into each others lives and that fabric will hold in place as long as we have a breath left in us. It is impossible to say goodbye to someone that is part of your being.
Will Real Life fill the void? I can emphatically say yes to this question!!! The Real Life person you give your love and life to will fill all the voids that missing your Second Life friends creates. You will never forget those friends. They are a part of who you are just as much as any Real Life friend has ever been.
When happiness comes into your Real Life you need to grab it and enjoy every second of it. That is what we live our lives for, what we prepare ourselves for, that moment when we achieve happiness and love.
"Remember in high school when your best friend moved away to another part of the country or another part of the world? That is a similar feeling when it is time to say good bye to your Second Life friends. An emptiness fills in where your 'pixel friend' once filled. An emptiness that is very hard to explain to those who never witnessed Second Life in the first place could understand. Yes, Second Life emotions are very real and can range from happiness to depression", Rose Fair.
I have watched my partner CeeCee and Rose cry their way through that last week and it breaks my heart. Real Life has never given birth to a friendship better than the one they share.
Be happy Rose. Make a Real Life we can all envy.
How can we say goodbye?
Until We Meet Again!!
We Love You!!
CeeCee and Z