What A Surprise!!~~~I Look Nothing Like My Avatar!!

“There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout:
This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me... or leave me. Accept me - or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don't fit your idea of who I should be and don't try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision.
When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad - you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.”Stacey Charter.

I know that everyone will be totally surprised, lol, that I look nothing like my avatar. After all he represents an image of me. But kiddies I not that 30's something, good looking, tall or the muscled specimen that is dancing through Second Life every night. I know this shocks you and you cringe at even thinking about it.

In reality I am an average guy with the struggles that we all face each day. My avatar represents, as many of yours do, my self image. I am not saying that the face that I see each morning, while shaving, is that of Second Life's ZoiloBrando. One could only wish, lol.

What my avatar will tell you is how I feel inside. I have always had a poor self image as far as my looks go. Even when I was younger when I actually looked pretty good. But rarely has my 'inner self image' suffered from a lack of ego and what is probably way to much pride. I am, in fact, an average looking man with a high level of intelligence, a shaky level of common sense, which many men suffer from, and all the insecurities and idiosyncrasies that a long and sometimes difficult life has provided me. Now that was a mouth full,,lol.

Like any man, well actually most human beings, I need the occasional pat on the back or push to achieve. As much as I love working on this blog, my short stories or my, what seems like, never ending work on my novel; I find it  quite difficult to sit at the computer each day and be productive. These days I have that little push I need in the form of a 'beautiful avatar', Friendly Story, who encourages me, is honest about my work and who at any instant will kick my ass if I falter. She even massages my 'ego' at times while managing to keep it in check. No small job.

Does Friendly look like her avatar? Lets just say that there is nothing about the Real Life Friendly that is any less beautiful than the avatar I dance with every night. We are lucky enough to share a wonderful life together, in Second Life, that spills over into Real Life in small but fantastic ways. Talk about building my self image,,lol.

OK! Here is the real deal. Attraction in Real life begins with 'physical attraction'. This is no less true in Second Life. Those that attract others in SL are people that attend to their avatars appearance with pride. Those that have sloppy avatars tend to portray a sloopy image to others. I am not sure whether this is Second Life mimicking Real Life or visa verse. You decide!

It is only after the physical attraction brings two people together that they can decide if the 'cerebral attraction', the more important of the two, is able to lay a ground work for a relationship. The old saying ' beauty is only skin deep' works in both Second Life and Real Life. Especially true in Second Life as a new skin is only a few hundred Linden Dollars away form the now you and the more beautiful you.

You will find what you are looking for if you allow yourself to get beyond your own self image and get to know someone on that all important cerebral level. In Second Life the physical attraction only goes a short distance as, and we have to admit this, most of us have very good looking avatars. Because of our situations, as Second Life avatars, we reach the interaction, on a cerebral level, much faster than our Real Life counterparts.

Get over the self image hump and you will be dancing all the way to a very good Second Life relationship. Believe me I know because I am lucky enough to be living a fantastic life with Friendly.

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.”~~Buddha.

Love ya,
Night

PS.....Thank You Precious!!